How long does love last in marriage?

How long does love last in marriage?

Love is the bond that makes people unites. Before the marriage, there is a relationship that birth marriage. Many people question how long love will last after they get married. Many studies show that love lasts 3 to 7 years of marriage time.

When I got married I had the same question but that did not trap me from loving my wife. Many people follow rumors and propaganda from people and fear to test. I decided to test what most people have fear. My experience now in marriage is different from what I heard from others. The following are things that have learned:

• Marriage is different from the relationship

Couples fail to understand the difference between marriage and time they were in a relationship. In a relationship, people have a lot of emotions towards each other. Some of these emotions do not signify love but body gratifications. If the relationship is led by such feelings does not last for long.

In marriage, you might have limited emotions since everything you needed while in a relationship you possess. That does not conclude that you do not love your partner but still, love exists. The emotions in the relationship seem to hike because you are meeting the person you never had in your lifetime. The time you become together the emotions start reducing but not love. So the key thing to understand is that marriage does not operate like a relationship.

• Love is built but not earned

It is ironical to think that you can earn love. Love is not earned but build. You and your partner play a greater portion in building the love. In most cases, love starts from one person and in an effort brings closer the other partner. When you are approached you might lack love emotions but with the time you gain. Lacking love emotions for the first time does not signify that you can’t love each other.  It is crucial for both of you to work together to build love.

You can build love in different ways. First, you can offer surprises to your partner. Surprises create a sense of love and build a bond between two partners. Buy your partner things he/she likes. You can buy clothes, shoes, flowers, watches and things funny. Secondly, take your partner outing. Don’t always stay in one place; take out your partner to a place that he/she never went. You can stay there while enjoying yourself.

• Be transparent and honesty

Many families have broken due to lack of transparency and honesty. Some small things like what you earn or where you are going to; if partner does not know creates some questions like; do you really love me? Remember when you joined together you became one meaning that you are one person. So everyone should know everything about you. Don’t hide anything since in the future will hurt you. Don’t do things without involving your partner; this can hurt him/her. Avoid all things that can make your partner doubt you. Cooperate in everything and everything will be well.

• Power of communication  

Don’t just think communication is a normal thing but truly possesses power. Marriage without communication is dead. You can’t stay in one house without talking or discussing and claim your marriage is live. Share with your partner crucial things that will build your love. Be frank if there is anything that hurts you and fix a solution. Anything you want to do consult wisdom from your partner do not just assume. Remember this is family you are making and have visions of. So if there will be no communication about the progress it is possible not to achieve what you aimed at. Just make frequent calls you if are not close to your partner. This will increase the love bond.

Marriage love can be estimated how long will last if all above and others are not followed.  The couple should focus on building love but not how long will last. Many couples have more than 30 years in marriage and they still love each other. Sometimes you find that they love each other more than they were in the first year of marriage. Focus on building love through communication, being transparent, honest, and maintaining happiness always. Don’t gain fear from what you hear but test and do as you and it will work well. Those estimate times for love they have side chicks who seem to be better than their wives or husbands. No one better than your wife or husband; just make him/her be like those you see and it will work well.